A Redding based Marriage and Family Therapist believes most people give up on their New Year’s resolutions because they are impatient with the process of change.
Each year millions of Americans ring in the New Year by making a New Year’s resolution. But according to the University of Scranton, Journal of Psychology, only eight percent of those people are successful. Marriage and Family Therapist Vickie Parker has found that many people become discouraged with the delayed gratification.
“It starts with small steps it just doesn’t happen overnight,” said Parker, “you have got to change your thinking before you can change your behavior.”
For the past four years Parker has been helping people transform their lives. The therapist is living proof of her own advice. She switched careers four years ago as a dental hygienist to become a Marriage And Family Therapist. Parker was dissatisfied with her profession and wanted to make a change. She said it took hard work and determination, something people need for their New Year’s resolutions.
According to the University of Scranton, Journal of Clinical Psychology, some of the top resolutions include losing weight, spending less money and quitting smoking. These are all goals that Parker said are achievable if people make the commitment.
“Do the best you can do for at least 21 days and there is that learning curve you have to go through and the pain is really intense,” said Parker.
She recommends that people make a resolution that is reasonable and measurable. Plus, it can be tough to do it alone so having another person hold you accountable can be helpful. Most importantly people need to to be patient.
“Don’t get discouraged and change takes time and you can do it,” said Parker.
Parker practices in Redding and provides online counseling as well. For more information or to contact Parker you can visit her website: http://www.vickiemft.com/